How to Have an Amicable Divorce featuring Nicole Kobis

Nicole Kobis explains why divorce proceedings can be resolved amicably and the importance of finding a legal mentor.

Nicole Kobis, a Rutgers School of Law-Newark graduate, explains why mediation has made her a better lawyer and why business development skills should be taught in law school.

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How to Have an Amicable Divorce featuring Nicole Kobis

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About This Episode

Nicole Kobis became a family lawyer and mediator after a clerkship sparked her interest in this legal field. After realizing that she could advocate for families with malice or deceit, Nicole Kobis used her mediation training to ensure that family members were protected and treated with respect and dignity in every divorce, separation, or other family law proceeding.

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Listen to learn:

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How compartmentalizing allows you to prioritize clients and protect your mental health
The importance of the Women’s Rights Law Reporter at Rutgers School of Law-Newark
How improving your listening skills can make you a better lawyer

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We also discuss:

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Best career choices if you have a JD and are empathetic
How to counsel your clients without getting overwhelmed
Why lawyers must deal with the stresses of practicing law

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Nicole Kobis is licensed to practice law in New York and New Jersey.

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