Redefining Success and Alignment in Law

Arivee Vargas is a first-generation Latina lawyer who went from Big Law litigation to in-house corporate leadership, all before pivoting to become an author, executive coach, and speaker. She shares the raw story of her identity crisis after having her first child and how that led her to develop the framework for her book, Your Time to Rise, focusing on aligning your career with your deepest values. This conversation is essential for any high-achieving lawyer ready to stop checking boxes and start building a life of true purpose.

LISTEN TO LEARN

  • How to separate your self-worth from your professional titles
  • Why focusing on the next right step eliminates career anxiety
  • How to apply law school grit to internal transformation

WE ALSO DISCUSS

  • Why lawyers struggle with compartmentalization in personal life
  • Deconstructing cultural beliefs about sacrifice and hustle
  • Choosing "Work-Life Harmony" over the balance trap
Redefining Success and Alignment in Law

<iframe width="100%" height="180" frameborder="no" scrolling="no" seamless="" src="https://share.transistor.fm/e/c63fe060"></iframe>

Redefining Success and Alignment in LawRedefining Success and Alignment in Law

About This Episode

Background

Arivee Vargas's successful journey is deeply rooted in her heritage as a first-generation Latina, with her parents hailing from the Dominican Republic. This background instilled in her a profound sense of drive, ambition, and a relentless work ethic, fueled by seeing her parents' sacrifices. This ambition propelled her through school and into the elite world of Big Law litigation, where she navigated a completely new environment. She candidly shares that navigating the law firm environment required her to learn an entirely new corporate culture in addition to American culture, recognizing her achievement as a significant milestone for her background.

“I am first generation Latina. So my parents are from the Dominican Republic. I was born here. That's important because so much of my drive, my hunger, my ambition comes from my culture and my upbringing," shares Arivee Vargas on You Are A Lawyer.

However, her cultural upbringing also instilled beliefs that became challenging, such as the idea that sacrifice is the norm and the need for deference to authority. This internalizing of beliefs that prize constant achievement and hustle eventually set the stage for a major identity crisis. Arivee has since embraced the journey of deliberately choosing which beliefs to keep and which to let go of, recognizing that some deeply held beliefs that served her earlier in life no longer served her on her path to alignment and true fulfillment.

Why Law School

Arivee's decision to attend law school was not driven by a long-held childhood dream; rather, it was initially about pursuing an opportunity that was presented to her, without a full understanding of the profession. She knew she needed to make money and viewed law school as a necessary box to check on her path to success. She began her career in primary litigation, aspiring to be a trial lawyer. Even as she went through the motions of law school and her first firm job, she had a strong instinct that the legal career itself would not be her final professional stop.

“I knew I was going to be a lawyer, but I also knew that wasn't going to be the last stop," reflects Arivee Vargas on Episode 214 of You Are a Lawyer.

The most significant turning point came after the birth of her first child, which triggered an identity crisis and a profound questioning of her career path. After returning from maternity leave, she realized she no longer wanted to be a trial lawyer, but instead desired a more collaborative environment where she could create and develop programs. This powerful realization prompted her shift to in-house roles with the pure curiosity of asking, "What else can I do?", ultimately moving her career toward compliance, Human Resources, and leadership development.

<iframe width="100%" height="180" frameborder="no" scrolling="no" seamless="" src="https://share.transistor.fm/e/c63fe060"></iframe>

What You Can Do With a Law Degree

A law degree is a versatile tool that allows for significant professional pivots, enabling Arivee Vargas to transition from Big Law litigation to high-level corporate roles in areas far beyond traditional legal practice. Her path from litigation to leading compliance, employee relations, and global leadership development programs demonstrates how the analytical, problem-solving, and communication skills learned in law school are highly transferable and valuable across the corporate landscape. Moreover, a law degree offers a strong foundation for a non-traditional career by providing the framework for self-leadership, which Arivee defines as the core of her current coaching work.

“You cannot lead other people at work if you don't know yourself and if you lead in your own life," shared Arivee Vargas on Episode 214 of You Are a Lawyer.

However, Arivee also points out the subtle but significant impact of legal training on personal life, noting that lawyers are taught to compartmentalize and be extremely objective and devoid of any feeling or emotion in the legal context. This training often leads attorneys to apply the same emotional separation and objective reasoning to their own lives, causing a misalignment where they prioritize work at the forefront over their personal desires and true calling. Therefore, leveraging a law degree in a fulfilling way requires actively unlearning this tendency to over-compartmentalize and instead using that same legal grit for internal transformation.

Lawyer Side Hustles

Arivee Vargas has successfully layered multiple non-traditional ventures alongside her demanding corporate career, demonstrating how a side hustle can evolve into a full-time business. While working full-time in high-level corporate roles, she became a certified coach and simultaneously cultivated her writing and speaking business. Her specific "hustle" involved writing her book, Your Time to Rise, which was written while she was still fully employed. She also established The Humble Rising podcast in 2021 as a platform to test and experiment with her ideas and voice before making the full-time jump.

“I started to realize, oh, I love coaching. I love, you know, doing this type of work,” Arivee Vargas shares in Episode 214 of You Are a Lawyer.

Her current full-time business is built around executive coaching, speaking, and authoring, all centered on the theme of alignment, the process of ensuring what clients truly believe inside matches what they pursue on the outside. Arivee's focus with her clients is on "transformation from the inside out," working primarily with high-achieving lawyers and leaders who are looking for executive-level life coaching to navigate a career pivot and better align their professional achievements with their personal happiness.

About Arivee Vargas

Arivee is licensed to practice in the state of Massachusetts.

Learn more about Arivee

This episode is produced by Skip The Boring Stuff, a podcast strategy company for business owners and creatives.

<iframe width="678" height="381" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/EbFWNfW8vZs" title="" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" referrerpolicy="strict-origin-when-cross-origin" allowfullscreen></iframe>

Recent Episodes

How to Transform Your Legal Career feat. Elena Deutsch

Elena Deutsch, a career coach on a mission to help women and non-binary lawyers find fulfillment outside of big law, shares inspiring stories of individuals who have transformed their legal careers through her program, Will. From setting boundaries to exploring new career paths, Elena's insights and guidance empower individuals to prioritize their well-being and create a career and life they love. Tune in to hear how Elena's program is helping lawyers navigate their professional journeys with confidence and purpose.
Read and listen here

How to Transition from Lawyer to Digital Nomad feat. Brian Dixon

Brian Dixon, a lawyer turned digital nomad, shares his journey of transitioning from practicing law to running his own business as a copywriter while living in Bali. In this episode, Brian discusses his decision-making process, the support he received from his family, and the importance of embracing change and taking risks in one's career. Listeners will be inspired by Brian's story of pursuing multiple passions and redefining the traditional boundaries of a legal career.
Read and listen here

How To Use Your Law Degree in Non-Traditional Ways feat. Tiffany Obeng

Tiffany Obeng, a lawyer specializing in employment discrimination, shares her journey of transitioning from practicing law to becoming a successful children's book author. Through her books, Tiffany aims to inspire young readers, especially Black children, to explore diverse career paths and embrace the power of literacy. Join us as Tiffany discusses the importance of representation in literature and the impact of alternative legal careers in shaping a more inclusive future.
Read and listen here

How To Balance Passion and Profit in Law feat. Joshua Brumley

Joshua Brumley, a successful lawyer and entrepreneur, shares the story of starting his own law firm right out of law school and the importance of networking and marketing in the legal industry. He emphasizes the value of building a strong network of like-minded attorneys and continuously learning and growing in the field of law. Joshua's passion for helping people and his innovative approach to marketing and business development shine through in this insightful episode.
Read and listen here

How to Be More Authentic in the Legal Field feat. Hannah Beko

Hannah Beko, a seasoned real estate lawyer and founder of Authentically Speaking, shares her journey of finding her authentic voice and helping other lawyers do the same. Through her coaching and training programs, Hannah empowers lawyers to navigate stress, burnout, and low self-esteem, encouraging them to explore diverse career paths and embrace their true selves in the legal profession. Join us as Hannah delves into her experiences and insights on personal growth and professional development in the legal field.
Read and listen here

How to Establish a Successful Solo Law Practice feat. Larry Williams II

Larry Williams II shares his journey from starting his own solo law practice straight out of law school to eventually working as a criminal defense attorney for the Harris County Public Defender's Office in Houston. Throughout the episode, Larry discusses the importance of mentorship, the value of networking, and the versatility of a law degree, encouraging young lawyers and law students to keep pushing forward and believe in their abilities to succeed in the legal field. Join us as Larry provides insights and advice for those navigating the early years of their legal careers.
Read and listen here

How To Promote Your Personal Brand at Work feat. Sara Williams

Sara Williams shares her story of self-discovery and growth in the legal industry, emphasizing the importance of breaking free from traditional norms to find fulfillment and happiness as a lawyer. From teaching at a law school to managing a firm and ultimately branding herself within it, Sara's story highlights the value of exploring different paths and embracing change to create a career that aligns with personal values and aspirations. Join us as Sara inspires law students and young lawyers to prioritize their happiness and forge their unique paths in the legal profession.
Read and listen here

How To Overcome Imposter Syndrome and Manage Stress feat. Lauren Klein

Lauren Klein shares her journey from big law to launching a coaching program for law students and new lawyers in this episode. She discusses the importance of mindset coaching, success coaching, and mindfulness in the legal profession, emphasizing the need for balance, health, and financial well-being. Lauren's insights highlight the versatility of a law degree and the endless possibilities available to young lawyers and law students.
Read and listen here

How To Navigate Career Changes and Find Fulfillment feat. Samantha Divine Jallah

Samantha Divine Jallah, an experienced in-house lawyer and life coach at Radical Bench, shares valuable insights on navigating career changes and finding fulfillment in the legal profession. Through her own journey of transitioning through different careers, Samantha emphasizes the importance of starting with oneself, utilizing one's skills and passions to create a fulfilling career path. Her advice resonates with young lawyers and law students, encouraging them to live intentionally and not stay stuck in unfulfilling roles.
Read and listen here

How To Mentor Young Professionals feat. Michael Alder

Michael Alder, a seasoned lawyer and mentor, shares his journey of personal growth and giving back in this episode. From navigating relationships to writing books on life skills for middle schoolers, his experiences during COVID-19 have shaped his perspective on mentorship and philanthropy. Join us as we delve into Michael’s unique approach to helping others and making a difference in the community.
Read and listen here

How To Delegate Tasks and Expand Your Podcasting Reach feat. Kyla Denanyoh

Kyla Denanyoh, host of the You Are a Lawyer podcast, shares three significant leaps she has made in her journey as a business owner, mom, and wife in this special bonus episode for Leap Year 2024. From becoming a boss managing a team of four to creatively launching five new podcasts, Kyla reflects on her personal growth, including navigating motherhood during a global pandemic and embracing the value of seeking help. Tune in to discover how Kyla's experiences can inspire and empower you on your own path.
Read and listen here

How to Improve Productivity in the Legal Field feat. Karl Seelbach

Karl Seelbach, lawyer and the founder of Skribe.ai, a legal tech company joins us for episode 129 of the You Are a Lawyer podcast. Karl explains how Skribe.ai offers attorneys a more efficient and cost-effective way to capture legal testimony, such as depositions, using AI and software solutions. The platform allows attorneys to easily access video synced to the transcript, create video clips, and receive a final proofread and certified transcript within three days. Karl discusses the benefits of this technology for trial lawyers and highlights its potential for transactional law as well. Tune in to learn more about the innovative use of AI in the legal field.
Read and listen here

©2025 You Are A Lawyer LLC.
All rights reserved.